The 3 Questions You Need to De-clutter Your Life With Ease and Intention


Spring is one of my favorite times of year.  It makes me crave fresh green veggies, sunshine and barefoot walks in the grass. It also makes me want to clean up and air out lots of different parts of my life.   If you’re feeling ready to de-clutter and start some new habits, I have three questions you need to know.  But first, a little background on where they came from and how I began to see them working in my life:

Last fall, one of my favorite bloggers Tara Bliss released her first book: High- A Party Girl’s Guide to Peace.  If you know me, you might be a little surprised that this is a book I chose to buy.  I can’t say anyone’s ever mistaken me for a party girl. But I LOVE her writing and knew it would be a good read regaurdless.


The book is probably half memoir (very compelling), and half self help lessons from these events she’s describing. The beautiful thing is, you can apply all of these lessons to your life, even if you’ve never had a drink or done any kind of drug.  Because we ALL have at least one way we self medicate or distract ourselves to avoid the present moment and whatever feelings might be coming up within us.  It’s part of being human.

So as I was reading, one thing that really hit home for me was the chapter on cleaning out the old so you can make space for the new.  Simplifying is not a new concept, but the three questions Tara shares to guide you through the process made it SO MUCH  EASIER for me.

Usually I hem and haw as I sort through my belongings, not quite sure if I’m ready to let go, or if I should have held on a little longer.  But this time, as I got out the trash bags, set about digging through my clothes and boxes, and used these three questions, I got rid of tons of stuff.  I also felt totally comfortable with my choices, no hemming and hawing. 

For example: I got rid of SO many socks, I hadn’t realized almost every single pair I owned had little holes (or big holes) but I was hanging on because they were expensive and cute when I bought them.  But it was clear, they did NOT represent the person I am ready to become.  So I threw them away, bought new socks without breaking the bank, and now I have a drawer full of lovely socks- no holes to be found. And no second guessing my choice.

I was going to write a blog post (with Tara’s blessing) to share these questions with you guys back in November, but somehow it got put off.  Then today, I realized why.

I was sitting here yet again feeling overly full and mad at myself for eating something that didn’t feel good in my body. I want to eat healthy food consistently and really treat my body with love, but I still struggle with that, as do a lot of you from what you’ve told me.

All of a sudden, I had a little light bulb moment.  What if I use THESE questions to guide my food choices?  How loving would that be?  How much easier would it be to make the decisions and let go of the guilt and frustration?

These simple but beautiful questions can guide us in SO many areas of our lives where we are looking to change, improve and grow.   Eating healthy, letting go of that extra glass of wine at night, deciding how we spend our time- wherever you are ready to make some changes and clean out the old to find space for the new.

So without further ado, here are the questions that you can apply in ANY area of your life to de-clutter and move towards the life you really want to be living:

  1. Do I love you?

  2. Do I need you?

  3. Do you represent the person I’m ready to become?

I now have these questions taped to the refrigerator door.  I’ll let you know how it goes over the next days and weeks.  I’m looking forward feeling to more clarity, and less guilt.

Try these questions out in your life and let me know how it goes.  I’d love to hear from you in the comments below: where you think it would be most helpful for you to apply these questions in your life?  Or you can tell me if you have hole filled socks too.  Or struggle with food.  We’ve all got baggage.  Let’s let it go together.

4 thoughts on “The 3 Questions You Need to De-clutter Your Life With Ease and Intention

  1. Michelle says:

    I love this, Kirstin! I just went through my house not too long ago but it needs to be done again as we seem to have accumulated massive amounts of ‘stuff’ over the years with kids. I am going to use your questions and especially LOVE #3. Can’t wait to see how that changes things:)

    • Kirstin says:

      Oh that’s awesome Michelle! I know the feeling, there always seems to be so much stuff. Can’t wait to hear how it goes for you 🙂

  2. Sherrie says:

    Hi Kirstin! So well said — I always resonate with your messages and so happy to get them in my email! I appreciate your willingness to be honest and share part of yourself. I recently “cleaned Out” my email subscriptions and facebook followings so I can focus on what I truly want in my life — so, your blogpost is really meaningful to me 🙂 I can’t wait to check out this book and apply the principles to where I want my life to be!

    • Kirstin says:


      You just made my day 🙂 Thank you so much for reading and I’m honored to be part of the subscriptions you kept around. I know how quick they add up. Have fun cleaning house and let me know how it all goes!


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